Each year I love to take time and make plans for my New Year’s resolutions.  Like you, I’ve made some really big ones – BEHAGS for short – and some that just are never going to happen (grow hair, get taller, dunk a basketball, sing in the choir (I’m not even allowed to sing in the shower!)   – you know, those magical ideas we conger up, only to be disappointed come spring that it just ain’t gonna happen.  This year, I’m taking a different track – simplifying my list (yes, I’m a list guy … actually a pile guy (if it’s in the right pile, I can deal with it). My goal is no piles!  I want to select some goals that are honest, specific, and reasonable.  So, I’ve decided to boil them down into three categories – something for my mind, something for my body, and something for my soul.  Now, my challenge is, what are the specifics??

My Mind – for those that know me, I think I’m fairly level-headed.  I have a thirst for knowledge, a drive for good outcomes, and truly love understanding situations, and then solving problems.  It’s driven from our PIA (pain in the @%$) Jobs! mindset, handed down from Dad and Mom while  embraced by my gang here at KHT. I’ll admit, it gets me revved up every time we can solve problems for our customers. For me though, it tends to creep into my everyday life.  One of my favorite sayings is “That’s Easy”) That “little voice” inside my head that says, come on Steve, you can figure this out.”  Whether it’s underneath the sink fixing a leak, working with my daughters on various projects, trying to assemble a toy for the grandkids, or hitting a chip from 74 yards off hardpan to an elevated green…it’s the same.  Be patient, think it through, trust your instincts, don’t overreact… and then the outcomes – sometimes good, sometimes not so good. My goal for ’23 is to do a better job of learning from my mistakes, staying more patient, and to just keep trying until I get it right. Before jumping in, I’ll check to see what the experienced experts say, and then give it a go.  I’ll be a bit more “mindful”.

My Body – on the surface, this one’s easy – eat better, exercise more, limit overindulgences, take my vitamins, get good night’s sleep, listen to the doctors… yea, yea yea. I’ve decided NOT to get caught up in the latest fad or put out some silly weight goal – (for those who’ve seen me eat, you know this is silly).  Instead, I’ve decided to combine my workouts with my first goal – I’ll keep running (and enjoy it) and mix in a few more events with my girls (we LOVE 5 & 10 K’s – plus I’m a sucker for those event tee shirts).  I’m going to set aside more time to go on walks with Jackie – in the woods and on the beach.  And, I’m going to take care of my skin – sunblock and cover ups. For those who know me, sunblock on my head is an absolute must! Now that I’m advancing into my older years (I like to say finally growing up….. a little! it’s silly to over push with weights and exercise – instead, I’m combining it with friends and family – carry my grandkids more, walk the courses rather than riding with my  kids or buds, and get out of work a bit earlier to enjoy the great weather we have here in NE Ohio with my incredible wife.

My Soul/Spirit – I’m blessed with an amazing upbringing – Mom and Dad knew how important my spiritual well-being is, and set the foundation for my spiritual upbringing –  I enjoyed Catholic schools, attend mass and continue to stay routed in my faith.  But, honestly, I can do more, with all of the blessings I’ve received and continue to receive  I tend to “forget” how important God is in my life. I’m committing to spending more time with my Lord and Savior – reading, learning from the bible and living a more spiritual life.  Quite honestly, the harder I  work on this one, I think the better I’ll do on my first two!!  I also plan to pass along my faith to my grandkids – be a role model “father- grandfather in action and in words”. It’s easy to talk, much more difficult to make it happen – but I’m up for it.

So – there you have it – hopefully it spurs you on to set your own goals for ’23. Skip the silly lists, and make some of your own.

Good luck – and God Bless.



How Long Is Your List?

Happy New Year to all – hope you had a great holiday (I sure did), got the gifts you wanted (my kids were all home for Christmas!) and enjoyed a little R&R with family and friends (I sure did). And so, the New Year begins with goals and aspirations and that dreaded “resolutions” list. If you are like me, it’s probably quite a list – better health, be kind, more spiritual, patience, be organized – oh yea, that “eating right thing” too (That doesn’t even make the list!). It made me wonder “who started this resolutions thing” anyway – and of course the answer is perfect for my weekly posts. Thanks to History Channel and Wikipedia for filling in some of the info.

  • Today, resolving to change and improve yourself and your life is an almost unavoidable part of the transition to a new year. Though it’s a pretty well documented fact that most New Year’s resolutions fail, we keep making them—and we’re not alone. The custom of making New Year’s resolutions is most common in the West, but it happens all over the world.
  • The ancient Babylonians are said to have been the first people to make New Year’s resolutions, some 4,000 years ago.
  • They were also the first to hold recorded celebrations in honor of the new year—though for them the year began not in January but in mid-March, when the crops were planted.
  • During a massive 12-day religious festival known as Akitu, the Babylonians crowned a new king or reaffirmed their loyalty to the reigning king. They also made promises to the gods to pay their debts and return any objects they had borrowed. These promises could be considered the forerunners of our New Year’s resolutions. If the Babylonians kept to their word, their (pagan) gods would bestow favor on them for the coming year. If not, they would fall out of the gods’ favor—a place no one wanted to be.
  • A similar practice occurred in ancient Rome, after the reform-minded emperor Julius Caesar tinkered with the calendar and established January 1 as the beginning of the new year circa 46 B.C. Named for Janus, the two-faced god whose spirit inhabited doorways and arches, January had special significance for the Romans. Believing that Janus symbolically looked backwards into the previous year and ahead into the future, the Romans offered sacrifices to the deity and made promises of good conduct for the coming year.
  • In the Medieval era, the knights took the “peacock vow” at the end of the Christmas season each year to re-affirm their commitment to chivalry.
  • For early Christians, the first day of the new year became the traditional occasion for thinking about one’s past mistakes and resolving to do and be better in the future. In 1740, the English clergyman John Wesley, founder of Methodism, created the Covenant Renewal Service, most commonly held on New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day. Also known as known as watch night services, they included readings from Scriptures and hymn singing, and served as a spiritual alternative to the raucous celebrations normally held to celebrate the coming of the new year.
    This tradition has many other religious parallels. During Judaism’s New Year, Rosh Hashanah, through the High Holidays and culminating in Yom Kippur (the Day of Atonement), one is to reflect upon one’s wrongdoings over the year and both seek and offer forgiveness. People can act similarly during the Christian liturgical season of Lent, although the motive behind this holiday is more of sacrifice than of responsibility. In fact, the Methodist practice of New Year’s resolutions came, in part, from the Lenten sacrifices. The concept, regardless of creed, is to reflect upon self-improvement annually.
  • Despite the tradition’s religious roots, New Year’s resolutions today are a mostly secular practice. Instead of making promises to the gods, most people make resolutions only to themselves, and focus purely on self-improvement (which may explain why such resolutions seem so hard to follow through on).
  • At the end of the Great Depression, about a quarter of American adults formed New Year’s resolutions. At the start of the 21st century, about 40% did.
  • According to the American Medical Association [(AMA)], approximately 40% to 50% of Americans participate in the New Year’s resolution tradition. It should also be noted that the 46% of those who made common resolutions (e.g. weight loss, exercise programs, quitting smoking) were over ten times as likely to succeed, compared to only 4% who chose not to make resolutions.

Most Popular goals include:

  • Donate to the poor more often
  • Become more assertive
  • Become more environmentally responsible.
  • Improve physical well-being: eat healthy food, lose weight, exercise more, eat better, drink less alcohol, quit smoking, stop biting nails, get rid of old bad habits
  • Improve mental well-being: think positive, laugh more, enjoy life
  • Improve finances: get out of debt, save money, make small investments
  • Improve career: perform better at current job, get a better job, establish own business
  • Improve self: become more organized, reduce stress, be less grumpy, manage time, be more independent,
  • Put down the phone, less screens, watch less television, play fewer sitting-down video games
  • Volunteer to help others, practice life skills, use civic virtue, give to charity, volunteer to work part-time in a charity organization
  • Pray more, be closer to God, be more spiritual
  • The most common reason for participants failing their New Years’ Resolutions was setting themselves unrealistic goals (35%), while 33% didn’t keep track of their progress and a further 23% forgot about it.
  • About one in 10 respondents say they make too many resolutions
  • According to recent research, while as many as 45 percent of Americans say they usually make New Year’s resolutions, only 8 percent are successful in achieving their goals. But that dismal record probably won’t stop people from making resolutions anytime soon—after all, we’ve had about 4,000 years of practice.

For fun, email me your list. I’ll tuck it away for a few months, and then “check back” to see how you are doing.




“Don’t Break The Chain”

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If you’re like most people, you’ve probably set out your personal and business goals for 2016. I have and am already feeling the pinch to stay on course… and it’s only been two weeks into the New Year!

What works best for me is making short lists I can keep handy. I, of course, have my personal goals – eat better, keep running regularly, be nicer to folks, go to church regularly, be sure to spend time with the girls – and all so far are going fine.

But the one that “gets” me, especially here at the office is – procrastination. Yep and as you’d imagine, I keep putting it off. So what I’ve decided to do this year is “just procrastinate less”. I’ve come to the realization that I can’t completely eliminate my issue, so I figure I’ll just chip away at it and see if, in time, I can beat it.

And, so far so good. I have my “to do” lists organized into buckets – sorted by Easy to the BHAGS (big harry ____ goals), my “project piles” and my “take home/bring back stuff” (you know, the stuff you put in your briefcase, carry home with great intentions to work on, take it out and spread it on the homework office desk – get busy with life at home – then the next day, pick it back up untouched, and bring it back to the office to only be recycled again.

One idea I’m going to try I heard from a friend. It’s called “don’t break the chain”. It actually comes from some online folklore credited to the famous comedian Jerry Seinfeld (he laughs that he is credited with inventing it) and goes something like this.

Hang a big wall calendar right where you can see it every day that shows all twelve months of the year. Then begin that goal or project you have – (for Jerry, it was to write multiple new jokes every day). Each day, as you work on the project/goal, put a big X on that day of the week when you have put time and thought into it and made progress – keep at it and “don’t break the chain”. Be honest with yourself, and see how long you can go, hopefully until the project/goal is completed. The habit and chain link will help you. And if you start another project, just use a different color X. I’m gonna give it a try right after my pal drops off the wall calendar and markers – (he knows me too well and figures I’ll “put off” getting the supplies).

Good Luck and know if you are wavering, or get stuck, feel free to give me a call. I’ll do my best to help you move through the muck and keep going. Together we can get through things and make for a better 2016. I will keep you posted throughout the year!

Also, we’d love to hear your resolutions and tips to stay the course – we’ll collect the best and share them down the road. Please send them along while we keep diligently plugging away at your PIA (Pain In The @#$) Jobs!